Truth is important, but it’s not all important. There are many terrible things to say that are perfectly true, but that doesn’t excuse saying them.
Let’s say you have a friend who is stupid and ugly (who doesn’t), you don’t just tell that friend, “Hey, you’re stupid and ugly,” and then when the friend gets upset, say, “But it’s true!” like that makes it better.
On the other hand, sometimes you need to speak the truth even if it hurts someone’s feelings. Let’s say a friend of yours (maybe the stupid, ugly one or maybe a different one) wants to quit his job and pursue a singing career, but he’s tone deaf. You might just have to tell that person, “You suck at singing,” even though it’s tough to hear.
So sometimes you have to say the truth even if it hurts, and other times you just sit on it to be polite, and you always have to judge when to do which.
And I’d say the LGBTQ issues are where we, as a society, have done this poorly and are still unraveling the consequences.
Now, I think about everyone except a fringe recognizes this with the trans movement. Too many people decided on politeness over truth (“You’re a woman, just like any other woman”), and this led to completely insane things like men competing in women’s sports and men being placed in women’s prisons and children getting surgeries that were essentially just mutilating them to combat mental illness. People said things they didn’t truly believe to spare feelings, and it led to real-world consequences.
But this compromise of the truth about the immutable difference of men and women didn’t start there. It started with the concessions in the gay marriage debate.
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